How do I admit at the age of 47 that I still listen to a bully?
She appeared about six months ago. At first she just made a comment or two about my job performance. I was giving it my all to make the new endeavor a success. Her snide remarks were quite unnerving. Why couldn’t she simply encourage me? A kind word goes a long way.
Next came the biting remarks. “You make too many mistakes. Stop while you are ahead.” Wow! Was that necessary?
She began to dig in and make comments about my appearance. “I noticed the dimples on your legs. You might want to do something about that.” She began to focus on my physical appearance. Every day it was something new. “Hey, you have age spots on your neck. You might want to try some of that skin lightening cream.”
It has taken a while to get my belly full of the bullying. It stops now!
It’s time to shut her up and show a little love. That bully is none other than myself.
The voice of the bully can be brutal. It squashes dreams and keeps us from being the best that we can be. The best way to get rid of the negative voice is to practice self-love and compassion. Even though I know this, it can be a tall order at times.
When the bully appears, take the time to understand why and let it go. Fear comes in many forms.
As a giver, I have not mastered the art of receiving. But this week I decided it was time to practice. I put it out there Tuesday morning that I was ready for the Universe to “gift” me. Once the intention was set, I went about my day with the giddiness of a little girl waiting to open her birthday presents. What would the Universe bring to me?
It was a day filled with adventure, playing tourist and sightseeing. With each place we went I wondered, “Is this the place where the Universe will gift me?” I was thinking that I would get something for free…I’ve been pretty good at manifesting that lately. My mind imagined some cute trinket that would remind me of my trip. That would be a nice gift. The day was coming to an end and we headed back to visit with my daughter-in-law. I began to rewind the day’s events in my head. Did I miss something?
It was evening time and I checked my phone for calls and realized that I had a message online from a friend that I have not seen in ten years. What a surprise! A lot of emotions came up for me. We had briefly talked online this past year but there were still some underlying emotions that were left unresolved. There was still some healing to do. We decided to meet for coffee the next morning. It was a short visit but that hour changed my life on so many levels. We were both allowed the opportunity to speak our minds and put some perspective into our relationship. Seeing life through another person’s eyes can be quite liberating. I acted out of fear back then. I completely own that. I shed that person a long time ago but for some reason I was still carrying the old skin around with me.
We all carry excess baggage from time to time. We simply have to remember to let go!
My mind thought small when it came to receiving. I’m glad that I was not in charge of creating the gift!
Thank you Universe! I’m especially grateful for my friend who gave me the chance to put my heart at peace.
Stop planning and begin embracing the Here and Now. I remember almost seven years ago, how I planned to work for a year and then quit my job to write a book. I had everything planned out and set expectations on how it would happen. Guess what? I am still with the same company and STILL writing my book!
Here is what I have realized:
1. Everything happens in Universal (God’s) time.
2. I am not in control of every step.
3. Work has been a blessing. I have had a lot of growth and experience in my job. In turn that experience has helped me to develop my gifts and talents.
4. Bloom where you are planted!
If you have a vision, desire, plan – you must do what you can to make it happen and then let go of all expectations. Allow it to come to you.
To sum it up:
1. Be centered, assured, believe in self. The more you believe the faster it will happen.
2. Let go of fear and negativity associated with past.
3. Let go of the need to plan.
4. Don’t question – ACCEPT!
5. Acknowledge that there is a Universal time that you do not control.
Embrace the art of letting go. Stay fluid and release physical attachments. Be grateful for all that happens in your life. You may be unaware of the path that you need to take in order to get to where you want to go.