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4fe1ff4939e2dbd987fa04e00b435bb8For years I have had a story inside of me.  It surfaced a few years back and I began the process.  Then one day, I put my journal away and went back to work.  It felt like the journey wasn’t finished and the story had more chapters.  It is a fictional story loosely based on true characters.  The main character faces many challenges in her journey.  She deals with her problems from a unique vantage.  My hope is that people will be able to relate to the characters and recognize the dynamics in their own life.

An excerpt from the beginning:

She looked beyond the horizon hoping to find the answers in the colors.  Such beauty she thought.  How would she get past the wall this time?  The sky seemed so limitless and expansive.  The air, filled with ever changing possibility. Yet her feet were planted firmly in the ground.  If she were a sapling, she would break in half from the wind  What would it take for her to pull her feet up and change direction?

The clouds began moving and the sun peeked it’s head out to warm her shoulders.  The feeling of warmth began to flow through her veins.  It became so hot, she had no choice but to move.  Her foot lifted, free from the heavy burdens that were on her shoulders.  She took another step forward and then another.  The horizon was still in sight.  She looked up to the sky and realized the rainbow that was hidden from her.  She smiled and had an urge to skip in the street.  With child-like abandon she moved with a deeper purpose.  She was put on earth to be fearless.  The world was colorful again and she was ready for the next chapter in her life.

Here’s to the beginning!

 

Change Your Life with a Book!

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Being a ravenous reader is one of my hobbies.  Books, whether fiction or non-fiction, open the mind to possibilities beyond our current thinking.  My focus has primarily been on the motivational and educational spectrum but there is great value in reading a book that sparks the creative powers of imagination.

The book that has made the biggest effect on my life in 2016 is The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.  I devoured the words and I’m listening to it on audio again.  The words literally leapt out of the book and slapped me upside the head!  As I awoke from my status quo stupor I realized that BIG changes were necessary if I intended on living the life of my dreams.

Small smart choices + Consistency + Time = Radical Difference

“The Compound Effect  is the principle of reaping huge rewards from a series of small,  smart choices.”  ~ Darren Hardy

Do you want to apply the Radical Difference and add some attainable goals?  I highly recommend The One Thing by Gary Keller.  This book is very in sync with the teachings of Darren Hardy.  Both writers suggest time blocking for extraordinary results.  You will learn with very clear and defined instructions on how to accomplish your goals and gain productive time.

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”  Jim Rohn

Bottom line – A book CAN change your life but you must take ACTION. 

Leave a comment below about a book that has changed your life.  Thank you in advance for sharing!

 

Are You Living Small?

Just when you think you are at the top of your game … BOOM!  I had a sudden realization that although I loved my job and my co-workers, I was not living up to my potential.  I had two choices: 1.  stay in the discontent of living small or 2. take a good look in the mirror and see where I could make improvement.

After attending two life changing events (UPW Dallas and Masterminds – more on this later), I began to feel sad and somewhat depressed.  What if there was more to life than just smooth sailing?  I watched as Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy took the stage and spoke about taking massive action and the compound effect of small changes over time.  Although both had different angles on making a change, the messages were similar.  A different outcome would require a different approach.

Einstein’s explanation of insanity began to make sense – “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

It became rather clear to me that personal change was not an option but a necessity!  The changes began in June of 2016.  The fear set in pretty deep and I developed migraines so painful that I had to take a week off of work.  I realize looking back that the headaches were a manifestation of the fear of change.

As Tony Robbins says quite often, I made the jump and, “Burned the Boats”.  No turning back now!  I’m happy to say that I am deeply out of my comfort zone and that’s okay.  It is both humorous and exhilarating.

“Life happens outside of your comfort zone.”

If you want to kick start your life, try doing something different.  Hire a life or business coach, attend a motivational conference, read about your favorite successful business leaders and emulate what they do.   Let your discontent fuel you to make a change.  Time to stop living small and LIVE LARGE!

 

 

 

Facing the Bully

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How do I admit at the age of 47 that I still listen to a bully?

She appeared about six months ago. At first she just made a comment or two about my job performance.  I was giving it my all to make the new endeavor a success.  Her snide remarks were quite unnerving.  Why couldn’t she simply encourage me?  A kind word goes a long way.

Next came the biting remarks.  “You make too many mistakes.  Stop while you are ahead.”  Wow!  Was that necessary?

She began to dig in and make comments about my appearance.  “I noticed the dimples on your legs.  You might want to do something about that.”  She began to focus on my physical appearance.  Every day it was something new.  “Hey, you have age spots on your neck.  You might want to try some of that skin lightening cream.”

It has taken a while to get my belly full of the bullying.  It stops now!

It’s time to shut her up and show a little love.  That bully is none other than myself.

The voice of the bully can be brutal.  It squashes dreams and keeps us from being the best that we can be.  The best way to get rid of the negative voice is to practice self-love and compassion.  Even though I know this, it can be a tall order at times.

When the bully appears, take the time to understand why and let it go.  Fear comes in many forms.

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Writing the Next Chapter in My Life…What Will Happen Next?

Life is a book and we are the authors of our own story.  My book is currently ending a chapter.  I’m going to be “offing” a few characters and simplifying the plot.  It’s time to rewrite my story and wipe the slate clean.  Who will survive and what will the focus be on next?  That’s a great question since the newest chapter is formulating in my head as I write.

What I learned in the last chapter could fill a book in itself; self love, forgiveness, closure, setting boundaries, becoming authentic, claiming who I Am.

I see a blank page in front of me as the words whirl in my mind.  There is not yet a visceral awareness that registers in my body but there is a sense of great change.  I know that any great writer is willing to completely scrap a storyline in order to create a better one.  Well I’m scrapping my story so I can create a new one.  It’s called a “do-over” in some people’s books.

So here are my thoughts about the heroine and a new story development:

1.  She will drop the storyline about not being able to live her dream.  It is getting old and doesn’t do her justice.  There are more exciting things to reveal about my heroine that should come to the forefront.  It’s called character development.

2.  The heroine is going to release the need for a happy ending and a peek into the future chapters.   If I gave away the plot, there would be no need to read the book anyway.

3.  Future chapters will introduce new supporting characters and a few old ones who will really make the story interesting.  A few twists and turns will bring about some amazing synchronistic events.  You won’t see this coming!  Hell, I don’t even see it coming.  I’m going to trust and let go.

4.  This book will become more humorous.  Drama “rules” in many books but humor is down right healing.

5.  There will be more adventures that will empower my heroine.  She is going to reach to new horizons and have some incredible experiences that are beyond her wildest dreams.

6.  There will be more supernatural phenomena.  She will embrace the spirit world with grace and share it with her readers.  Oh the stories she will tell!

Whether you are a lead or supporting character in my book, I thank you for being a part of my story.  It’s time to take the plot to the next level!  Hang on to your tail feathers and soar with me 😉

Do It Anyway!

A note from my Higher Self to Me:

There will be days when you will be afraid to do something….do it anyway!

There will be days when you feel like you cannot give another breath of energy to your purpose…do it anyway!

There will be days when you question your purpose and become filled with fear….do it anyway!

There will be days when others will try to discourage you from your passion…do it anyway!

The only journey to filling your life purpose is through the doubt, fear, and being out of your comfort zone.

Like the caterpillar that spends its days crawling on the ground wishing it could fly.  It takes stages of growth to ultimately become the butterfly.  If there was no struggle, the caterpillar could not transform into the winged creature who takes flight.

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The Surprise Gift

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I’m back! Life ebbs and flows. Some days and even months are outwardly expressive and times that the expression must take an inward turn. That is where I have found myself for nine months now. Like a pregnancy, I am ready to give birth to the next chapter in my life. Thank you all for being a part of this process.

I had a major epiphany a few weeks ago and my soul begs me to share. So here goes:

It was a beautiful morning commute to work and I had time to listen to a talk show on Hay House Radio. The topic was loving unconditionally. I pondered what it meant to truly love someone without judgement, ego, and personal filters. The week before had been emotionally difficult. Anyone with a Brady Bunch family can understand the complexities of relationships that go with divorce. I was dealing with my feelings towards someone who I believe is creating harm to themself and others. I was in a state of conflict, wanting to love this person but not liking their actions. The show continued and a brilliant flash of light came to me in the form of a thought. “Why don’t I send this person flowers and tell her that I love her?”. I could tell her that we are all in this together. In this race of life, no one gets left behind. The goal is not to “win” but finish the race with everyone. No soul falls to the wayside. We look after one another and pick them up when they have given up on themselves. My energy quickly shifted and I began to cry. I was so moved by the love that I felt in my heart. I saw her as someone who needs love, not as the menace I perceived her to be in my life. The love that poured into me and through me was only what I can describe as “Heavenly”. I can’t tell the story without being moved to tears. It was such a beautiful place to be. I saw her divine soul and realized that we all have our path in life. I wanted her to feel the love that I felt. I wanted her to be happy. That was it, as soon as I got to my office, I was going to order flowers and send them to her. I sat in this beautiful love about 15 minutes. Then other thoughts came into my mind. What if she does not take the flowers and message as I intended? She might misread my actions. Doubt began to set in about sending the flowers. So I asked my guides (angels) to let me know in a very clear way if this was a good idea.

I got to work and went on with my day as usual. No clear message came to me and I ended up not sending the flowers.

A few days later, driving to work, another great epiphany came to me. I heard my guide tell me, “The flowers were not for her, they were for you”. I literally gasped as I got the message. What? For me? Then the message began to take shape. Although sending flowers to her sounded like such a wonderful idea, it was the idea itself that was the gift. I allowed my heart to completely open and see her as divine and that released me from toxic thoughts. The gift was indeed mine.

You can listen to Hay House Radio free on your computer or smart phone by going to their webpage and downloading the app. Be inspired and motivated by their 24 hour station that broadcasts many Motivational Speakers such as Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hay, Michael Bernard Beckwith, and many more.

The Baker and His Dream

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The baker sat at his table one morning dreaming of the perfect cake.  His coffee was percolating,  just as loudly as his brain was, with ideas.  He looked through his kitchen window and saw the dew drops nestled delicately on the flower petals in his garden.  He felt inspired to walk outside and get a closer look at his prized peace rose-bush.  The scent of freshness wafted through his nasal passages and he took a deep breath in.  What a beautiful day it would be.  He was inspired to create something extraordinary that would look, smell and taste delicious.

As he rummaged through his pantry he began to find the basic ingredients he would need for his special cake.  He found baking powder, salt, flour, sugar, none of which sounded extraordinary to him.   How would he make these things come together and become a masterpiece?  As he pulled his mixing bowl out of the cabinet he thought about the process.  He could create the mixture and stir it until it became a smooth liquid but that is as far as he could go.  At first he felt troubled by his limitations and felt that he would not be able to carry out his masterpiece that day.  Just as sadness set in, an idea began to take shape in his thoughts.  What if…what if he involved something greater than himself to help him create the masterpiece?  He realized that he had done his part.  The mixture was poured into a glass pan and he handed it over to the Oven.  The Oven lovingly accepted the mixture and began to work its magic.  He watched through the window as the ingredients began to take a different form. The smell permeated his kitchen and once again he breathed in deeply and enjoyed the scent.  Before his very eyes magic was taking place!  The individual ingredients began to unify and rise into a single beautiful form.  He was grateful to the Oven.  In that moment he realized that he had let go and trusted the Oven to do its work.  His raw ingredients had transformed into a beautiful cake.

When you have done all that you can do, let go and let the “Oven” in your life help you to transform the creation that you have in mind for yourself. 

This story is dedicated to all of my friends who are creating their own “cakes”.

Heroes Night Out – Saving Lives One Day at a Time

“Come to me,  all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me,   for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” ~ Matthew 11:28-29

A typical morning at Heroes Night Out involves a crisis, several pots of coffee and staff brainstorming to come up with creative solutions for Veterans and their families. 

Heroes Night Out Green Zone Resource Center is a non-profit organization founded by Wes and Judy Pierce.  They started with a few wallets filled with gift cards for wounded soldiers and their families to enjoy a day out while recuperating from their injuries at the Fisher House in San Antonio.  Judy and Wes could not imagine at the time where their path would lead.  If they would have known they might have stressed tremendously from the work that would be ahead of them.  Luckily they had the vision and faith to simply put one foot in front of the other and trust where they would be lead.  Right in front of their eyes, the organization grew to allow board members and volunteers who helped them with fundraising.  The mission began to change as they saw that the needs were great for these wounded soldiers.  The physical healings were happening but something was missing…their spirits were still wounded.  Many of the wounded soldiers were dealing with PTSD, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), depression, and other emotional issues.  Wounded Warriors were calling them for emotional support and Judy and Wes began to invite them for holidays so they wouldn’t have to spend it all alone.  Heroes Night Out began to evolve into an all encompassing service to help the veterans out any way that they could.  If HNO could not help, they diligently located resources and even made the appointments and arrangements. 

That was several years ago and HNO is now a 5,000 square foot Resource Center complete with a computer center, family room, board room, and several offices that are sublet to other Veteran Service Organizations (VSO’s).  The Green Zone Resource Center is named after a place that the military refers to as “safe” when overseas in hostile territory – the “Green Zone”.  It is a haven for all who walk in the front door.  They have a down to earth approach to veterans and a “come as you are” attitude that makes the center appealing.  The first time a veteran walks in the door, they are greeted and asked to sign in and then they are shown where the coffee pot is.  By the second visit veterans are no longer visitors, they are family.  They know to help themselves to a hot cup of coffee. 

“There is a magic that happens up on the hill”

War is an ugly entity.  It creates deep wounds that often take years to heal, if ever.  But wounds can heal with the right resources and one simple ingredient – LOVE.  Healing does happen on the hill at the Green Zone.  It is due to the heart and soul of the operation – Judy and Wes.  Their enthusiasm and deep compassion for veterans is epidemic.  Being in their company encourages others to do extraordinary things.  The Green Zone is completely staffed and ran by volunteers five days a week.  Volunteers are composed of veterans, family members of veterans and people who simply want to make a difference in someone’s life. 

Being at the Green Zone is a spiritual experience for me.  Words are spoken freely where veterans feel safe.  It is not proper nor is it politically correct but it is real.  The love and compassion that exists at HNO Green Zone encompasses all who walk in the front door.  I’ve witnessed desperate men and women come in the front door ready to end their life only to watch them change their mind at the end of the day and give it one more try.  That is the gift of this organization – changing and saving lives one day at a time.

Dare to…

What would you do in your life if all the risk of failure was taken away?  Imagine a world where you were always supported and encouraged and anything was possible without limits.

What would you dare to do?

There is a beautifully framed poster in my meditation room that reminds me to Dare to… written by Meiji Stewart.  I would like to share a few excerpts with you in hopes that you will be daringDare to be bold and live your life in Technicolor!  You might even find yourself creating new colors if you are courageous enough.

Dare To…

Ask for what you want

Believe in yourself

Change your mind

Follow your hearts desire

Insist on being yourself

Love and be loved

Nurture your spirit

Overcome Adversity

Question Conformity

Speak your truth

Take personal responsibility

Understand more, judge less

Volunteer your time

Walk through fear

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I Dare you to indulge in your dreams and write a few down.   Now speak your dreams out loud.   Put the words I Am in front of what you wish.  Here’s an example: I Am a runner.  I run effortlessly and continue to amaze myself weekly with my achievements.  Give yourself permission to describe it all in detail.  The details create an awareness in your senses that awakens you to the reality of, “I can hear it, see it, feel it, smell it, therefore I Am“.  I’ve found it very helpful to tape my list to my mirror and read it each morning (You can also use permanent markers.  Rubbing alcohol will take it right off).

One of my favorite philosophers is Sark.  She is a wildly eccentric writer who embraces living a juicy life.  I cannot read her books without grinning.  If you are exceptionally daring give some of her ideas a try.  However if you choose to lick a mango naked, please be sure to do it in the privacy of your home.  I cannot be held responsible for the consequences.

Be Delicious

Eat mangoes naked – lick them off your arms

Be rare, eccentric and original

Describe yourself as marvelous

Tell the truth faster

Make more mistakes (that’s how you finally succeed!)

Investigate your dark places with a flashlight

Discover your own goodness

Let the Daring begin!!!  I Triple Dog Dare you to share an experience with me in Blogworld!  Send me a comment and encourage those around you.  I don’t know about you but I simply cannot pass up a Triple Dog Dare.  It goes against my code of living colorfully :).

The word Dare or a variation thereof was used 12 times in this article (including the one in this sentence).  I hope you got the message 🙂