About Dina Neatherlin-Schiaffo

Transformation Coach

I Dance Anyway

4fe1ff4939e2dbd987fa04e00b435bb8For years I have had a story inside of me.  It surfaced a few years back and I began the process.  Then one day, I put my journal away and went back to work.  It felt like the journey wasn’t finished and the story had more chapters.  It is a fictional story loosely based on true characters.  The main character faces many challenges in her journey.  She deals with her problems from a unique vantage.  My hope is that people will be able to relate to the characters and recognize the dynamics in their own life.

An excerpt from the beginning:

She looked beyond the horizon hoping to find the answers in the colors.  Such beauty she thought.  How would she get past the wall this time?  The sky seemed so limitless and expansive.  The air, filled with ever changing possibility. Yet her feet were planted firmly in the ground.  If she were a sapling, she would break in half from the wind  What would it take for her to pull her feet up and change direction?

The clouds began moving and the sun peeked it’s head out to warm her shoulders.  The feeling of warmth began to flow through her veins.  It became so hot, she had no choice but to move.  Her foot lifted, free from the heavy burdens that were on her shoulders.  She took another step forward and then another.  The horizon was still in sight.  She looked up to the sky and realized the rainbow that was hidden from her.  She smiled and had an urge to skip in the street.  With child-like abandon she moved with a deeper purpose.  She was put on earth to be fearless.  The world was colorful again and she was ready for the next chapter in her life.

Here’s to the beginning!

 

Dare to Follow Your Dreams

“I can’t do that!  I’m too short, curvy, and my nose is too long.”  That was my inner voice bully in response to modeling.  She can be so mean at times!   Luckily I have learned to hush the rambling and move on in spite of her.  Modeling is a hobby for me.  I may not be a runway bea18403879_10154677382347426_774723773989012061_outy but I CAN be a great example of courage for others who want to do something that they think is impossible.

Do you have dreams that you are afraid to follow?  I dare you to begin.  Do what scares you most.  That is where the greatest accomplishments arise.  Be that person that shakes and trembles and does it anyway.  I’m rooting for you!

We rise by lifting others.

 

For all of the Mom’s out there – Happy Mothers Day ♥


A big thank you to the photographer that believes in my dreams – Joseph Hernandez.  You are insanely gifted!

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Why I Wear a Superhero Shirt on Fridays

 

One day a week I indulge my belief that I have superpowers and wear a Superhero shirt.  This could be misconstrued as ego but let me share my “why”. 

Growing up I had it in my head that one day I would find my knight in shining armor.  It’s a romantic thought but not very empowering.  Why would I need someone to “rescue” me?  I threw that childhood story out and created a new one.  The new main character was no longer a hero but a heroine.  She rode her own horse and didn’t need to be rescued from anything because she had the courage and strength to do things for herself. 

A few years back I began to wear to superhero shirts to work on Fridays as part of a campaign.  No longer with the company, I continue to embrace my inner superhero.  Quirky?  Maybe.  But Fridays give me an opportunity to remember who I am and hopefully inspire others to embrace their own superpowers.

 

Make Winter Your Season

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The days grow shorter, the leaves fall from the trees and winter approaches. Animals hibernate and people “settle in” for the cold season. Even trees seem to come to a complete halt. But trees possess a magic in the winter that allows them to survive. On a molecular level, tree membranes become pliable and the fluid within the living cells becomes like an antifreeze.    This process changes the tree cell viscosity to where cells appear solid which increases the tree’s survival rate. Why would this matter to you? Trees appear dormant in the winter. But are they REALLY dormant? Absolutely not! They are busy changing on the inside to prepare for the harsh winter conditions that may come their way. Not all winters are difficult but they prepare nonetheless.

Will you survive your “winter”? What are you doing to prepare?

Change Your Life with a Book!

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Being a ravenous reader is one of my hobbies.  Books, whether fiction or non-fiction, open the mind to possibilities beyond our current thinking.  My focus has primarily been on the motivational and educational spectrum but there is great value in reading a book that sparks the creative powers of imagination.

The book that has made the biggest effect on my life in 2016 is The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.  I devoured the words and I’m listening to it on audio again.  The words literally leapt out of the book and slapped me upside the head!  As I awoke from my status quo stupor I realized that BIG changes were necessary if I intended on living the life of my dreams.

Small smart choices + Consistency + Time = Radical Difference

“The Compound Effect  is the principle of reaping huge rewards from a series of small,  smart choices.”  ~ Darren Hardy

Do you want to apply the Radical Difference and add some attainable goals?  I highly recommend The One Thing by Gary Keller.  This book is very in sync with the teachings of Darren Hardy.  Both writers suggest time blocking for extraordinary results.  You will learn with very clear and defined instructions on how to accomplish your goals and gain productive time.

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”  Jim Rohn

Bottom line – A book CAN change your life but you must take ACTION. 

Leave a comment below about a book that has changed your life.  Thank you in advance for sharing!

 

Make Mistakes in 2017!

My goal is to make a few mistakes in 2017. The need to be perfect is taking a back seat so I can reach to new horizons.  As we all know a cat doesn’t simply jump for the first time and land right where they planned.  Funny cat videos show us that cats have plenty of fails before they succeed.  But the most important thing a cat does is JUMP!

Wishing you a year full of jumps, mistakes and greater accomplishments!

See you on the back end of success!

 

Are You Living Small?

Just when you think you are at the top of your game … BOOM!  I had a sudden realization that although I loved my job and my co-workers, I was not living up to my potential.  I had two choices: 1.  stay in the discontent of living small or 2. take a good look in the mirror and see where I could make improvement.

After attending two life changing events (UPW Dallas and Masterminds – more on this later), I began to feel sad and somewhat depressed.  What if there was more to life than just smooth sailing?  I watched as Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy took the stage and spoke about taking massive action and the compound effect of small changes over time.  Although both had different angles on making a change, the messages were similar.  A different outcome would require a different approach.

Einstein’s explanation of insanity began to make sense – “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

It became rather clear to me that personal change was not an option but a necessity!  The changes began in June of 2016.  The fear set in pretty deep and I developed migraines so painful that I had to take a week off of work.  I realize looking back that the headaches were a manifestation of the fear of change.

As Tony Robbins says quite often, I made the jump and, “Burned the Boats”.  No turning back now!  I’m happy to say that I am deeply out of my comfort zone and that’s okay.  It is both humorous and exhilarating.

“Life happens outside of your comfort zone.”

If you want to kick start your life, try doing something different.  Hire a life or business coach, attend a motivational conference, read about your favorite successful business leaders and emulate what they do.   Let your discontent fuel you to make a change.  Time to stop living small and LIVE LARGE!

 

 

 

Battle or Blessing?

Waking up at 5 a.m. is my new normal.  I walk a 5k each morning to get my body going.  This morning was a different story.

I believe that the mind is a brilliant piece of equipment that can be tamed and trained to do things unimaginable.  One of my biggest goals is to be free of autoimmune symptoms that I have dealt with for years.  I’m working out, walking almost 20 miles a week, eating lots of vegetables, and taking care of myself.  So this morning, it was very disheartening to wake up with the familiar aches, headache and exhaustion that I experienced in the past.  For a moment I went to a place of self blame and judgment which caused a momentary suffering.

I caught myself in that dark place and decided to change my thoughts.  “No need to suffer with the symptoms”, I told myself.

Will I ever be free of the days that slow me down?  I don’t know.  What I do know is that I have the opportunity to practice self forgiveness, slowing down and appreciating life, and being grateful for all of the days that I feel great.  If this is my reminder, then I duly note the experience as lesson learned.

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Facing the Bully

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How do I admit at the age of 47 that I still listen to a bully?

She appeared about six months ago. At first she just made a comment or two about my job performance.  I was giving it my all to make the new endeavor a success.  Her snide remarks were quite unnerving.  Why couldn’t she simply encourage me?  A kind word goes a long way.

Next came the biting remarks.  “You make too many mistakes.  Stop while you are ahead.”  Wow!  Was that necessary?

She began to dig in and make comments about my appearance.  “I noticed the dimples on your legs.  You might want to do something about that.”  She began to focus on my physical appearance.  Every day it was something new.  “Hey, you have age spots on your neck.  You might want to try some of that skin lightening cream.”

It has taken a while to get my belly full of the bullying.  It stops now!

It’s time to shut her up and show a little love.  That bully is none other than myself.

The voice of the bully can be brutal.  It squashes dreams and keeps us from being the best that we can be.  The best way to get rid of the negative voice is to practice self-love and compassion.  Even though I know this, it can be a tall order at times.

When the bully appears, take the time to understand why and let it go.  Fear comes in many forms.

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Where’s the Rainbow?

A few weeks back I was speaking to my mom on the phone. The weather was wet and overcast.  I was looking outside and said to mom, “I don’t see any rainbows.  Where are the rainbows mom?”  My mind went to Pops, my stepfather who passed last May.  He was a man who always laughed and seemed to find something funny in every situation.  I was in the process of trying to find the bright spot in a few situations.  Mom, always the wise one, left me to figure it out for myself.  After our conversation, I asked Pops out loud, “Where is the rainbow Pops?”

I kind of expected him to make a rainbow appear to me as a sign that everything would be okay.  I certainly didn’t hold my breath on that wish but I did look into the sky and contemplate the question.

A week later, I was at a store digging in my coin purse to pay for something.  I just needed a quarter to finish the transaction.  I pulled out a quarter and to my great surprise, there was a rainbow sticker on that quarter!  The cashier must have thought I lost my mind as I laughed out loud.

Pops, in real Pop fashion, taught me that rainbows are everywhere.  Sometimes you have to find a different perspective and let go of how things appear.  While I was busy looking everywhere else, the rainbow was right in my purse the whole time!

Thank you Pops for your reminder and thank you mom for giving me the space to figure it out for myself ♥.

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