Going with the Flow

Death, separation, job change, financial struggles, remarriage, family reunion, surgery, kid going to college, moving upstairs, major house renovations, relationship challenges, paranormal experiences….This has been my 2018 so far.

On January 1, 2018, I sat down on my living room floor and had a prayer in my heart.  I asked the Universe to provide me a word to focus on for the upcoming year.  It was an immediate response…almost like my angels were yelling at the top of their lungs…FLOW.  I thought to myself, wow, that’s going to be interesting.  Then the words began to flow into my ear…go with the FLOW, ebb and FLOW, heart FLOW, financial FLOW…It was very clear that I would have to be flexible in my life.

Life hit me like a ton of bricks towards the end of January.  My partner Bobby and I were going into our 12th year of marriage.  I attended a 4 day seminar that made me take a good look at goals, intentions and purpose.  I had to admit to myself that I was terribly unhappy on so many levels of my life.  Bobby and I didn’t communicate and most of the time we tolerated each other.  How did that happen?  We were very much in love at one point and then we barely talked.  When you attend a self help class of any sort, be prepared for the unexpected to show up…especially baggage that you store away and refuse to deal with.  That’s the gift of self help.  I call it, “Welcome to the SHIT SHOW”.  Look at your shit, deal with your shit, admit your shit,  release your shit, stop being a shit.  It’s not pretty but it IS pretty raw.

I came to the conclusion that I could no longer tolerate my “tolerable” life.  I had come too far to “settle”.  So I gathered my courage and told Bobby that we were not working and I needed some space.  I wanted a divorce.  He was stunned to say the least.  I moved upstairs.  The next few months were nothing short of miraculous.  A series of very paranormal experiences began to commence.  It is still something I am trying to wrap my head.  Divine intervention is an understatement.  Maybe someday I will be able to talk about it freely but I will share that it woke Bobby and I up and made us realize that we are partners in this life and we have work to do.

I’ve always lived my life with an exit plan in place.  My marriage was no exception.  Although in survival situations in my life it worked brilliantly, having an exit plan did not allow me to completely commit myself to Bobby.  That was the part of the shit show that I had to own.

We worked on our problems and left the outcome open to possibilities.  Easter weekend came and new beginnings were right around the corner.  Bobby proposed to me on bended knee in front of family and friends.  I said yes.  We went from planning a divorce to planning a wedding vow renewal.  So many things happened throughout the process.  Looking back, I’m glad that I didn’t see all the changes coming.  The fur babies that we raised from the beginning of our marriage both passed away same day.  Our youngest son left for college.  We decided as a family that Mom would move in with us.  Our youngest daughter moved back in.  We took in our adopted nephew while he waited to go into the Air Force. I broke a toe and had double foot surgery.  Our house foundation began to falter and is in the process of being fixed.  We changed jobs unexpectedly and emptied our savings building our business.  Our daughter-in-law began training as part of our team.  Relationships with some family members took a turn for the worse…and then came full circle.  Friends passed away.  I went through menopause.  I embraced my love for Unicorns.  I quit giving a shit what people thought about my happy disposition…no more dimming my light.

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Why am I sharing with you?  It’s not to air dirty laundry…but hopefully you can relate and find some insight and even humor in my situation.  We all have a “situation”.  Looking back, I’ve had some priceless moments arrive in the midst of emotional turmoil.  That’s something my Mom taught me…you can laugh or cry…it’s up to you.  Well Momma, I’m laughing and learning.

2018 is far from over but I’ve already gotten my word for the upcoming year.  It is FOCUS.  This one makes me real nervous as I have self proclaimed SS “Squirrel Syndrome”.  What’s with these F words???  I wonder what 2020 will bring?  That’s a loaded question!

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Hurricane Harvey Healing Hearts

 

Healing and hurricanes are usually not combined in the same sentence.  On any ordinary day they wouldn’t be said in the same breath but that is before Hurricane Harvey hit Texas.  As a category 4, Harvey ripped through Rockport, Texas on August 25th annihilating the little town.  The wind continued along the coast and the rains flooded the metropolis of Houston.  While Houston was still reeling from the damage of the flooding, Beaumont and Orange, Texas were quickly flooding.

Before the hurricane Texans were divided by political parties, racial and civil unrest, and transgender rights.  The news industry proudly announced the dissension every day.  Then Hurricane Harvey hit.  People lost their homes, jobs, everything of value.  Poor and rich alike had to face the same disaster without water, food and electricity.

Fellow Texans heeded the call for help.  Churches, Real Estate offices, non-profit groups, the National Guard, The Texas Navy, Cajun Navy and transportation crews stepped up to the plate and went into action.  Some groups have been collecting supplies and delivering to affected areas.  For those with boats and watercraft, they have went to flooded areas and performed rescue missions.  The list of donations and volunteers is too extensive to include.  Cleanup efforts are in full force.  The delivery of supplies and rescue missions continue.

Southeastern Texas looks like a war zone.  It will take months and years even for the scars to be removed from our little piece of the world.  But the boundaries have fallen and we are finding our connection to one another.  Kind deeds and acts of bravery are happening all over Texas without regard to who or what a person is on the receiving end.  This is not a time of separation but of coming together to help one another bear the burden of the storms of life.  God bless Texas.  We are Texas Strong.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”
– Margaret Mead

I Dance Anyway

4fe1ff4939e2dbd987fa04e00b435bb8For years I have had a story inside of me.  It surfaced a few years back and I began the process.  Then one day, I put my journal away and went back to work.  It felt like the journey wasn’t finished and the story had more chapters.  It is a fictional story loosely based on true characters.  The main character faces many challenges in her journey.  She deals with her problems from a unique vantage.  My hope is that people will be able to relate to the characters and recognize the dynamics in their own life.

An excerpt from the beginning:

She looked beyond the horizon hoping to find the answers in the colors.  Such beauty she thought.  How would she get past the wall this time?  The sky seemed so limitless and expansive.  The air, filled with ever changing possibility. Yet her feet were planted firmly in the ground.  If she were a sapling, she would break in half from the wind  What would it take for her to pull her feet up and change direction?

The clouds began moving and the sun peeked it’s head out to warm her shoulders.  The feeling of warmth began to flow through her veins.  It became so hot, she had no choice but to move.  Her foot lifted, free from the heavy burdens that were on her shoulders.  She took another step forward and then another.  The horizon was still in sight.  She looked up to the sky and realized the rainbow that was hidden from her.  She smiled and had an urge to skip in the street.  With child-like abandon she moved with a deeper purpose.  She was put on earth to be fearless.  The world was colorful again and she was ready for the next chapter in her life.

Here’s to the beginning!

 

Dare to Follow Your Dreams

“I can’t do that!  I’m too short, curvy, and my nose is too long.”  That was my inner voice bully in response to modeling.  She can be so mean at times!   Luckily I have learned to hush the rambling and move on in spite of her.  Modeling is a hobby for me.  I may not be a runway bea18403879_10154677382347426_774723773989012061_outy but I CAN be a great example of courage for others who want to do something that they think is impossible.

Do you have dreams that you are afraid to follow?  I dare you to begin.  Do what scares you most.  That is where the greatest accomplishments arise.  Be that person that shakes and trembles and does it anyway.  I’m rooting for you!

We rise by lifting others.

 

For all of the Mom’s out there – Happy Mothers Day ♥


A big thank you to the photographer that believes in my dreams – Joseph Hernandez.  You are insanely gifted!

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Why I Wear a Superhero Shirt on Fridays

 

One day a week I indulge my belief that I have superpowers and wear a Superhero shirt.  This could be misconstrued as ego but let me share my “why”. 

Growing up I had it in my head that one day I would find my knight in shining armor.  It’s a romantic thought but not very empowering.  Why would I need someone to “rescue” me?  I threw that childhood story out and created a new one.  The new main character was no longer a hero but a heroine.  She rode her own horse and didn’t need to be rescued from anything because she had the courage and strength to do things for herself. 

A few years back I began to wear to superhero shirts to work on Fridays as part of a campaign.  No longer with the company, I continue to embrace my inner superhero.  Quirky?  Maybe.  But Fridays give me an opportunity to remember who I am and hopefully inspire others to embrace their own superpowers.

 

Make Winter Your Season

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The days grow shorter, the leaves fall from the trees and winter approaches. Animals hibernate and people “settle in” for the cold season. Even trees seem to come to a complete halt. But trees possess a magic in the winter that allows them to survive. On a molecular level, tree membranes become pliable and the fluid within the living cells becomes like an antifreeze.    This process changes the tree cell viscosity to where cells appear solid which increases the tree’s survival rate. Why would this matter to you? Trees appear dormant in the winter. But are they REALLY dormant? Absolutely not! They are busy changing on the inside to prepare for the harsh winter conditions that may come their way. Not all winters are difficult but they prepare nonetheless.

Will you survive your “winter”? What are you doing to prepare?

Change Your Life with a Book!

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Being a ravenous reader is one of my hobbies.  Books, whether fiction or non-fiction, open the mind to possibilities beyond our current thinking.  My focus has primarily been on the motivational and educational spectrum but there is great value in reading a book that sparks the creative powers of imagination.

The book that has made the biggest effect on my life in 2016 is The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy.  I devoured the words and I’m listening to it on audio again.  The words literally leapt out of the book and slapped me upside the head!  As I awoke from my status quo stupor I realized that BIG changes were necessary if I intended on living the life of my dreams.

Small smart choices + Consistency + Time = Radical Difference

“The Compound Effect  is the principle of reaping huge rewards from a series of small,  smart choices.”  ~ Darren Hardy

Do you want to apply the Radical Difference and add some attainable goals?  I highly recommend The One Thing by Gary Keller.  This book is very in sync with the teachings of Darren Hardy.  Both writers suggest time blocking for extraordinary results.  You will learn with very clear and defined instructions on how to accomplish your goals and gain productive time.

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.”  Jim Rohn

Bottom line – A book CAN change your life but you must take ACTION. 

Leave a comment below about a book that has changed your life.  Thank you in advance for sharing!

 

Make Mistakes in 2017!

My goal is to make a few mistakes in 2017. The need to be perfect is taking a back seat so I can reach to new horizons.  As we all know a cat doesn’t simply jump for the first time and land right where they planned.  Funny cat videos show us that cats have plenty of fails before they succeed.  But the most important thing a cat does is JUMP!

Wishing you a year full of jumps, mistakes and greater accomplishments!

See you on the back end of success!

 

Are You Living Small?

Just when you think you are at the top of your game … BOOM!  I had a sudden realization that although I loved my job and my co-workers, I was not living up to my potential.  I had two choices: 1.  stay in the discontent of living small or 2. take a good look in the mirror and see where I could make improvement.

After attending two life changing events (UPW Dallas and Masterminds – more on this later), I began to feel sad and somewhat depressed.  What if there was more to life than just smooth sailing?  I watched as Tony Robbins and Darren Hardy took the stage and spoke about taking massive action and the compound effect of small changes over time.  Although both had different angles on making a change, the messages were similar.  A different outcome would require a different approach.

Einstein’s explanation of insanity began to make sense – “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

It became rather clear to me that personal change was not an option but a necessity!  The changes began in June of 2016.  The fear set in pretty deep and I developed migraines so painful that I had to take a week off of work.  I realize looking back that the headaches were a manifestation of the fear of change.

As Tony Robbins says quite often, I made the jump and, “Burned the Boats”.  No turning back now!  I’m happy to say that I am deeply out of my comfort zone and that’s okay.  It is both humorous and exhilarating.

“Life happens outside of your comfort zone.”

If you want to kick start your life, try doing something different.  Hire a life or business coach, attend a motivational conference, read about your favorite successful business leaders and emulate what they do.   Let your discontent fuel you to make a change.  Time to stop living small and LIVE LARGE!

 

 

 

Battle or Blessing?

Waking up at 5 a.m. is my new normal.  I walk a 5k each morning to get my body going.  This morning was a different story.

I believe that the mind is a brilliant piece of equipment that can be tamed and trained to do things unimaginable.  One of my biggest goals is to be free of autoimmune symptoms that I have dealt with for years.  I’m working out, walking almost 20 miles a week, eating lots of vegetables, and taking care of myself.  So this morning, it was very disheartening to wake up with the familiar aches, headache and exhaustion that I experienced in the past.  For a moment I went to a place of self blame and judgment which caused a momentary suffering.

I caught myself in that dark place and decided to change my thoughts.  “No need to suffer with the symptoms”, I told myself.

Will I ever be free of the days that slow me down?  I don’t know.  What I do know is that I have the opportunity to practice self forgiveness, slowing down and appreciating life, and being grateful for all of the days that I feel great.  If this is my reminder, then I duly note the experience as lesson learned.

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